Issue 502 Dealing with Angry people January 9, 2015

While we discussed how we dealt with our own anger yesterday, we did not discuss how to deal with people who are angry at us, or the world.  So how should we react to an angry person?

Ways to react:

1) Don't get hurt:  For one, keep your distance.  If these people are violently angry, then you will want to avoid interacting with them as much as possible.  Also, if they attack you, then defend yourself so that you can avoid injury.  This is obviously an extreme case, but it is usually best to let angry people be, especially if they are expressing themselves publically, which usually means they want to engage in an argument.  Thus, avoid them so that you do not allow them the satisfaction.

2) If you are targeted:  Once the angry person has you in their sights there are a few ways to react.  If they want you to engage in a verbal sparring match, then you must meet that with "love".  In this case ask them what made them angry.  What went wrong with their day today to make them feel that way?  So you are just going to ask questions of them until they get frustrated and walk away or it turns into a discussion where they are basically venting to you and you are lending them a kind ear to listen to their problems.  Another option is to give short one to two word replies like "yes", "no way" or similar responses.  This prevents your interaction with the angry person into an argument and keeps the angry person from lashing out at you if at all possible.

Conclusion:  These are the two primary methods of dealing with angry people that I know.  Basically avoidance or converting the anger of the angry person into venting/having a discussion are the two best methods.  Obviously, everyone has their own methods of dealing with other people’s anger, but like I said, these worked for me and I share them with you so you can see if they will work for you too.

Issue 501 Dealing with Anger January 8, 2015

We all have to deal with anger.  In fact we all have anger issues.  But how should we deal with our own anger?  What ways can we stop ourselves?

Dealing with it:

1) Self Control:  For one, you will have to try and maintain self-control.  If you react to the situation in a negative way, you can make the situation worse.  Either that or damage yourself or the image people have of you.

2) Take yourself out of the situation:  If a particular person or event is causing you anger, then it is best to take yourself out of it if you feel yourself losing your cool.  Thus, you can nullify your anger.

3) Venting and exerting:  Finding ways to let your anger out in a positive way is a very good thing.  For one, a simple rant or going off on a tangent with a friend who is willing to sit there to listen to you can help greatly.  Either that or you can talk to your pillow.  Another way to let it go is to exercise in some way.  Whether it be kickboxing, weight lifting, or other form of physical fitness it can help.  Also, yet another way to unleash your frustration is by writing it down, painting, or other form of art that lets you unleash your inner torment. 

4) Isolating oneself:  While it may seem counterproductive, isolating yourself so you do not lash out as you slowly let go of your negative emotions is a viable tactic to dealing with the situation.  Even ignoring the other party that caused the anger and disengaging from them will aid you in stopping yourself.

Conclusion:  No one likes being angry (unless you are a little crazy), but there are healthy ways to deal with it that are not destructive to yourself or others.  So these are just a few tips from the times when I myself had to deal with anger and frustration.  Hope these help you as much as they did for me.

Issue 500 Getting Rich January 7, 2015

Well now, getting rich is something we all want to do right?  We want to be financially secure so that we can spend on the things we want or on those most important to us.  So here I would like to present some tips on how to become rich in an increasingly expensive world.

Tips:

1) Avoid spending money:  One of the basic misconceptions about being rich is that you have to spend money to get rich in the first place.  This is a misconception.  The primary way to accumulating money is by avoiding having to spend it.  So when given the choice between an expensive new car, and a used one, you would choose the used one.  If you can use a coupon to save money at the grocery store, then use it because you are able to keep the money you earned in your pocket.

2) The right investments:  There will be times when you must spend money in order to accumulate more wealth.  This is only for when making an investment into something that will increase your wealth later on.  One such investment is life insurance.  This insurance will protect you and your family from possible problems such as deaths and unforeseen life events.  Stocks and bonds are another form of good investment if you know which to buy (do your research on these please).  These long term choices on what to spend will dictate if you have to keep working until you're 70 years old or can retire early.

3) Healthy living:  Another important way of keeping you from having to spend money is to live in a healthy way.  Basically, eat right, exercise and avoid getting sick.  With the right maintenance to your body you will be able to avoid having to spend on healthcare and thus insure you can spend money on other priorities in your life.

4) Buying Choices:  Do you really need the $100 bag when they have another for $10?  Do you need that limited edition action figure?  Should you spend $20 on that new tattoo or invest it in next week's grocery bill?  Should you buy the pizza, or that box of spaghetti which will feed you for an entire week?  These are all examples of buying choices.  Similar to tip number one, but in this we are deciding what the better investment of our money is in the first place.

Conclusion:  Getting rich quick is the least likely way to achieve becoming rich.  In fact, becoming rich is all about making the hard choices from now and until your death.  No, it is not easy to become rich, and it is a lot of work (I'm still working on it myself), but in the end it is better to make these choices that leave you in a better position financially today than the day before.

Issue 499 Faults vs. Greatness January 6, 2015

We all have faults that we sometimes try to avoid looking at.  However, this does not mean we cannot achieve greatness.  Allow me to explain.

Faults and Greatness:  The best examples are from history. President George Washington was a slave owner.  However, he did not want to continue owning slaves, despite continuing to do so. He feared a life without the lifestyle he had achieved and the riches he had garnered, so in his last will in testament he wanted all the slaves freed (a way to alleviate his guilt perhaps).  He was also prone to fits of anger according to what we have read from testimonies of those who knew him.  These were his faults.  Yet he achieved greatness as a General who helped lead the fledgling United States to independence, and would go on to be its first President.  So greatness can be achieved despite one's own failings.

A more modern example would be Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.  He apparently was not a very loyal husband according to accounts from the FBI (The FBI did not like Dr. King and thus looked for anything to discredit him).  However, Dr. King despite this failing managed to lead the civil rights movement to its final victory.  And today we only have small pockets of resistance left that fall back into old hatreds.

Conclusion: So you have a series of fault, in the same way I do.  In fact, everyone is full of some form of human failing or another.  However, we can overcome these faults as the two aforementioned examples show.  And you think these examples are rare, then think again.  The founding Fathers all had one failing or another (alcoholism, couldn't hold a job beyond a specific period of time, slaves, adultery, anger issues, debt).  Then we have modern examples like Jack Welch, Steve Jobs, and each and every one of our Presidents including President Obama with his fault of arrogance (you can tell when he is questioned on his actions as he gets visibly perturbed).  So all these men (and women as the case may be) achieved greatness despite the problems that they caused themselves.  So the real question is, can you and I do the same?

Issue 498 Take back your community January 5, 2015

I am writing this because the number of broken towns and cities feels like they are increasing.  I mean look at Ferguson after the Cop and Michel Brown had that altercation resulted in the death of Michael Brown.  So here is my advice on how to take your community back.

Taking it back:

1) First you have to use the "see something same something rule".  If you see someone or a group breaking into a home, or a store, record it and then turn it over to the police.  Not all police are bad and the majority only wish to do their jobs.

2) If someone just admitted they committed a crime to you, or they told you about an acquaintance who has, then tip off the police.  This is a sure way to rid the streets of drug dealers and other trash in your community.

3) Start a community watch.  People who care can patrol the town and report incidents that occur.

4) If a person comes into your town to make trouble, report them.  The majority of the violent Ferguson protesters were from places other than Ferguson.  Do not let them ruin your community.

Conclusion:  These are basic and they all rely on the police for we cannot arrest malcontents.  We can however strike back by reporting people.  However, we can also educate our kids and each other on right and wrong.  Teaching the children of our towns not to act like a criminal who burns cars, robs stores and such just to express their anger is the least we can do.  Remember, it is your town, and you live in it.  Don't let yourself or the people around you ruin it.  

Issue 497 Anti-idols January 2, 2015

Well, we all have people we idolize right.  People who have lived and inspired us.  Basically people like Jesus, Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. and many more.  But do we need an anti-idol?  Someone to spurn and for us to strive to never be?  Let us discuss.

The concept:  The idea is fairly simple.  In the same way we pick heroes for us to idolize, we pick someone to despise for their misdeeds and their evil ways.  Basically, people like Mao, Hitler, members of the Black Hand, Osama Bin Laden and other nasty people like Charles Manson, the Unabomber, and Timothy McVey.  So while we would try to emulate people like Jesus and Dr. King, we would actively seek to avoid or to not do what these anti-idols would do.  So we would thus study their behavior, where they went astray and thus try to insure we would not go down a similar path of destruction.  Basically, this is a thought exercise for people, and even for students of history and psychology. 

Conclusion:  So what would be my own anti-idol?  I would think Chairman Mao.  He sacrificed hundreds of thousands in his five year all for the sake of his version of progress. Basically he was a totalitarian dictator who killed people or worked them to death (literally) in order to achieve his selfish goals.  To further his atrocities, he brainwashed kids to rat out their parents if they even dared to complain about his regime.  And he even destroyed thousands of years’ worth of Chinese history to "reset" China to his communist rule.  So what about you?  I chose Mao because he trampled over everything in his ends justify the means approach.  But you can choose anyone to be your anti-idol.  So pick the one person you would never ever want to become.

Issue 496 The Unelected Should Butt Out January 1, 2015

Every November we have an election in the United States, but the new people taking over the positions of the unelected do not do so until January (this is the case with the President of the United States and with the members of Congress).  Now this is potentially a problem, and I of course am going to tell you why.

The issue at hand:  The reason why this delay in transitioning over to the new members is bad is because the unelected individuals may still make laws.  They now can make and vote for any law they please without voters being able to un-elect them again.  You see the biggest fear of lawmakers is being un-elected, but once you take that away, they can pretty much do whatever they want.  This is obviously bad for now they can pass laws on increasing your taxes, creating more penalties and make it harder for the majority of Americans to afford to live in our own country.  You get the picture.

Solutions:  There are a few possible solutions.  The first is the un-elected members of Congress vacate their offices and no longer have any voting power.  Thus, a district will lack representation until January when the new members are sworn in.  Another possibility is to put Congress on vacation until the new members are sworn in after the New Year.  This means no laws will get passed, but it also removes the possibility of a Congressional district (and the people being represented) not having a say in the making and passing of a law.  Mind you these same ideas apply to Senators as well. A State may have two Senators, but that means the State will have one less person to represent them in comparison to the rest of the country.  As such it is unfair.  

The President's position is also one that is affected by such solutions.  We cannot have a President vetoing or passing laws of Congress without the possibility of a Congressional override or evaluation.  Not to mention, the President could try and claim emergency powers and maybe start a war.  But at the same time, we need a national leader to be there if there's an emergency.  As such, a President would and should be limited in their actions during this transitional period.  Basically, they would defend the country if attacked and that is it.

However, there is one real solution to this entire problem.  That is to have the new members of Congress, Senate and the President take up their positions as soon as they know that they have won the election.  Just because they do not have an office to sit in does not mean they cannot perform the duties they were just elected to do.  So this kind of makes the most sense to me than waiting a full month and a half for them to kick the old people out and bring the newer people in.

Conclusion:  Well my last solution makes the most sense.  I mean come on, do these representatives actually think they are worth waiting for?  Do we want to continue risking the possibility of a legislature gone wild?  So let us kick these bums out already and bring in the new blood.