Thursday, March 26, 2015

Issue 556 Marriage and Prenuptials March 26, 2015

I was watching Glenn Beck one day and he was saying how he met his second wife.  He said that he initially wanted a prenuptial do to a bad break up in his first marriage, but his now current wife would not have it.  She said to him: why would I put a contingency plan on a relationship that is supposed to last forever (I am paraphrasing here).  So the question is why have a prenuptial?

Answering the question:  Marriages are supposed to last forever.  It is supposed to be an everlasting union between two consenting adults so that they can start a life together and share a bond of love.   However, a prenuptial challenges that notion.  It says that the relationship may end, or that an end is already decided, and thus the love in the marriage is fleeting at best.  I can understand why some people would want a prenuptial, as they fear the marriages failure, or they feel the feeling of the other are not entirely genuine, but they love them so much they are at least willing to spend whatever amount of time belonging to that individual.  But, if you have such a strong doubt that you would need a prenuptial, then why are you risking wasting your life on a failed relationship when you can find true happiness with someone else.  Why torture yourself with doubts.  Also, why not work out problems with your spouse as they arrive so that you never need a prenuptial like a real couple.  Why resort to a divorce the moment you reach an impasse.  There are some stark contrasts here, which while easy to understand, genuinely show that love is typically blind, or at the very least is easily not very understood.

Conclusion:  My point is, be careful with what messages you are sending to your spouse when you ask for a prenuptial.  Obviously it is not a very pleasant one as your doubts are showing up on your sleeve.  Marriages are supposed to last forever, so make sure you think hard before asking for a prenuptial.  


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